I’m going to pretend like this is a novel idea, or at least one that hasn’t been written about ad nauseam.
Food is important to most people. I’d even go so far as to say that without it, most people would die until they were dead. Some people don’t really care about it, some people care too much and are snobby about it, and there are lots and lots of differing opinions on what’s good, what’s not, what’s comforting, and what’s downright blasphemous. That’s all fine and dandy, we’re entitled to our opinions.
I believe that food is important. How and what you eat reflects who you are. If your diet consists mostly of packaged microwave food, you might be lazy. If you eat food without much spice or creativity, you might not be a very adventurous person. If you eat nothing but meat because that’s what men do, you might have gender-stereotyping issues. If you take time to make food the right way, even though it might be more challenging or take more time than you’d like to spend, then there might be other areas of your life that receive as much care and effort.
Let me further say that who you are is wonderful. If you’re lazy or lack an adventurous side, that’s fine. But what I believe, and what is more or less the point of this post, is that people who have similar tastes in food have a connection with one another that isn’t found in people with differing tastes. That’s not to say that people won’t get along, however.
Just recently I watched a movie called All Around Us. It’s a movie about a married couple. Somewhere in the dialogue someone asked another someone about her marriage, and she said that she and her husband had similar food tastes, to which the asker responded by saying that’s good, people get along better. I wish I could remember it more clearly, but seeing as how this was 7am, I wasn’t fully paying attention. But I do agree with it.
I won’t say that I believe all married people who have different food tastes won’t live happily ever after; nor will I say that I believe all married people who have the same food tastes will live happily ever after. However, what I will say is that I believe if a married couple’s food preferences are aligned, then that’s one layer of compatibility that they don’t have to worry about quarreling over as often. And seeing as how food is such an important thing socially, culturally, physically, something we do two to four times a day every day, disagreements that happen over food might add up over time.
For the sake of argument, let’s pick two people who have vastly different food opinions. Man-Spouse doesn’t like anything but meat and potatoes, not too many spices, no organs, no new dishes that step outside the comfort zone. Woman-Spouse likes to experiment with weird food combinations, likes variety, likes taking standard dishes and reinventing them. Are they going to have a happy marriage? There are lots of other factors to consider before that answer is apparent. Will they have arguments over the food they cook? Definitely. (I don’t like having strong convictions or being abrasive, but believing that these aforementioned hyperboles won’t ever have a fight over food is like saying shit doesn’t stink. Even two calm, quiet, reserved people will still have disagreements.)
Communication is more important in successful relationships, more so than sharing food preferences. But what if you found a significant other who has a similar food style, no matter what it is? That’s just one less thing that you have to deal with on a near daily basis.
Epilogue: this is one of those rare spur-of-the-moment posts that actually get published. Sorry for replacing any ‘you’re’ with ‘your.’